SEX IS A JOKE YOU DON'T GET

Sex Is A Joke You Don’t Get.

Did you ever not get a joke?

Man walks into a bar and says ‘ouch’.

Of course you have not gotten a joke.

It is such a painful experience that you don’t even like thinking about it right now.

Man walks into a bar and says ‘ouch’.

Sex is like a joke you didn’t get.

When we hear a joke we are after a specific emotional response: Joy.

We are so interested in getting to the Joy that we may even get Excited

And, by the way, usually don’t remember the joke for that reason.

Interest and excitement build: Man walks into a bar.

The pay off: Ouch!

If we get it we relax and experience Joy.

If we do not, well what do we do? I think we;

Clear our throat and look down and away. We do the above and are thinking to ourselves how dumb we are. We order another round for everyone Or we say out loud boy that was DUMB!

In other words we feel bad.

Sex is like a joke we don’t get if we solve the problem.

We solve the problem by being humble enough to have the joke explained to us or wait a bit until it hits us over the head and we experience JOY. Probably not as much as if we had gotten it right away but this depends on whether or not we maintained the same level of Interest.

So how is Sex a joke?

Certainly we want Joy and we get there by being interested but in between a lot happens. Am I desirable? Will I please him/her? Do they still love me? Are they doing this just to please me? All of this might have to be overcome to get to where we are going. We might not get there as we may:

Clear our throat and look down and away. We do the above and am thinking to ourselves how dumb we are. We order another round for everyone Or we say out loud something really DUMB!

But if we do not do the above we get more and more interested and excited and apply our skill to solve each and every problem until we achieve our goal. That goal is not only the moment of organism but of the relaxation and feeling of joy that follows.

Boy had I not been so drunk I would not have run into the bar!

So take your time walking into a bar, telling a joke and having sex.

Brian Lynch,M.D.



Brian Lynch,M.D.

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